I’ve heard that, in life, one of the hardest and most important questions we must answer is “what do you really want?” Claiming and quantifying a goal is the first step in achieving it. Well, boy-o-BOY does our junk LOVE to sign us up for big, kinky-ass goals when we’re all riled up. Masochistic fantasies swell to bursting and next thing ya know you’ve booked yourself a training session with a Dominatrix! It’s very common to fantasize about being trained but what does it actually entail? Is it the right path for you or just a fleeting fantasy? Is it time to take your submission to the next level? What does that even involve?
To Train, or Not to Train, That is the Question!
Our desires vacillate so dynamically from the moments that we’re really aroused to the times we’re entirely disinterested. Those who can keep their feet in both spaces at once are rare ones, they’re The Trainees. It takes a lot of discipline and is relatively rare (probably less than 10% of the people I see) but can become a thrilling, lifelong hobby for some. These are often the subbies you’ll end up seeing in FemDom clips and I’m going to tell you their secrets.
There are many experiences that people seek from their sessions that don’t involve training or pursuing improvement. There is no hierarchy of motivation, it’s all about being true to yourself and pursuing things that excite you. Mental, physical and everything in between, BDSM is a journey through your own sexuality. Goals are made and met by you, ultimately, with your chosen Dominants providing touchstones along the way.
Training is a whole mindset in itself with goals varying widely from person to person. In the audio I talk about how people often underestimate the amount of self-discipline and solo training it actually takes to see tangible improvements in BDSM. Pain tolerance, orgasm control and anal play are a few examples of kinktivities that require consistent time and effort outside of your sessions. Whether you decide to pursue a kinky training goal or not is entirely up to you but it’s a question worth asking yourself. The audio includes some tips for those looking to optimize their in-session training time.
